1. What makes you feel accomplished? Explain.
I can’t answer this one because I don’t know that I ever feel accomplished. I am always too far behind, always playing catch up, to ever get anything of any significance accomplished.
2. If you had your own talk show, who would your first three guests be? Tell us why.
The first person that I can think of, that is currently living, is David’s cousin Ann. Ancestry.com helped us to find each other. Her grandpa was David’s great-grandpa. She was first cousin to David’s daddy, so I guess that makes her and David first cousins once removed. I would choose her because I would love to hear her family stories in person.
The second and third ones are no longer living. The second one I would choose is Big Mama, who is my great-grandmother, my daddy’s paternal grandmother. She is the Annie that PS Annie! is named for. My daddy loved his grandma so very much and named me for her. I want to hug this woman that loved my daddy with a fierce love to the point that he thought the sun and moon rose and set by her.
Number three would be Elvis. I want to ask him why he did some of the things he did, even though he knew they were bad. I want to know the why behind the sadness in his eyes when it seemed to the rest of the world that he had everything a man could want. Something was missing. I want to know what that something was.
3. Do you have a great burger recipe? What's in it? What do you like on a hamburger and where is your favorite spot to order one out?
No, I don’t have a great, or any, burger recipe. I like mayo, a little mustard, onions, lettuce, tomato, sometimes cheese (but it doesn’t like me), and bacon on a burger. I like the burgers at 9ers and at Five Guys and at Burger King.
4. What's the biggest anxiety producing thing you do on a regular basis?
The only thing that I can think of for this question is dealing with obnoxious people and trying not to get eaten by their uncontrolled dogs or sent to an early grave by their non-stop smoking. .
5. This is the last Hodgepodge of May. Tell us about your summer plans.
The only plans I have for the summer are not dying in the heat and continuing to take pictures of the birds and squirrels. Oh, yeah, and trying to make it through this ever-growing stack of books we need to read and review. :)
6. Insert your own random thought here.
This stage of mothering is difficult. Adult children are far more difficult than little kids. You have to hold on and let go at the same time and no matter which one you do, it isn’t the right one for that particular moment. You want to guide because that is what the Bible tells you to do. They take it as you trying to run their lives, which you aren’t. You get accused of ignoring, when they are the ones not responding. No matter what one does, it is never the right thing when the kid is now a 20-something.
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Great answers Suzanne! I'm trying to learn with my daughter that just graduated to bite my tongue and let her ask for advice instead of automatically offering it. Very hard to do!
ReplyDeleteCome see my daughter & her graduation surprise! #Caneyhead: High School Graduation. :)
Yes it is very hard to do! I think, though, there are times when we see they're about to mess up big time, we aren't supposed to wait for them to ask. We're supposed to try to set them straight. They may not like it, but no matter how old they are, we are still their parents. There are responsibilities in that job role that don't end just because they are over 18.
DeleteI don't know about you, but I think I'll be buried without a tongue at the rate things are going. :)
Have a blessed day!
Good points there on parenting adults. Perhaps it should be the Terrible Twenties rather than the Terrible Twos. Yes, interviewing Elvis would be fascinating.
ReplyDeleteI think you're right on that title there. :) I guess we probably did our parents the same way, and they their own parents, too. It may be normal, but it sure isn't easy.
DeleteHave a blessed day!
I'm with you on parenting adult children. My girls ask my advice and seldom take it. Have a great week.
ReplyDeleteIt kind of makes you wonder why they bother asking, doesn't it? :)
DeleteHave a blessed day!
Elvis did have sad eyes. I always liked him and wondered the same thing as you. Sounds horrible having to endure the dogs and the smoke. No way to avoid them? There are things I would like to tell our son-in-law, but I won't. It just isn't my place.
ReplyDeleteI've always liked Elvis, too. I liked him even more once my Aunt Mae told me we were cousins. Ancestry helped me figure out what level of cousin, I just have to verify their line of ancestors.
DeleteThere's no way to avoid them. Sometimes I swear they sit at the window waiting to see when we go outside because that's when they come out to smoke. The room we use the most is on the side of the house that their house is on. The dogs bark all day and all night long and, on several occasions have come running up at us, snapping and growling. Unfortunately, the animal control guy is their friend, so there's nothing being done about them letting them run all over the neighborhood. Their dogs have ever terrorized the little grandbabies of the neighbors on the opposite side of them, still nothing is done. Several of us have complained and still nothing gets done. We don't want the dogs to be put down, but we do want them contained in their yard, under control.
In regards to the smoking, they don't even care that they are potentially killing their own children. The mother's words to me were, "I have to do it for me, not for them, and I'm not stopping." What a selfish, un-motherly attitude! Mothers should be willing to sacrifice for their children, not so willing to sacrifice their children. They don't care. It is heartbreaking and very, very frustrating.
The only way to avoid them is to move, which we can't afford to do in our current financial situation.
I hope that things will be okay for your daughter and your son-in-law. I'm kind of in the same spot there. There are things that I want to tell a love interest of one of our children, but it isn't my place to do so. I just hate to see a potential good thing lost and more broken hearts.
Have a blessed day!
Sorry about the issues that bring you anxiety and the issues with this stage of mothering. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. ((Hugs))
ReplyDeleteThank you, Debby. You're in my prayers, too. {{{Hugs}}}
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Oh, do I know where you are with the mothering process. My "kids" are 25 and 30 and I still can't get anything right. If you try to give advice or help you are trying to run their lives, if you back off you don't love them enough. Sigh. I wonder if their 30s or maybe 40s will go any better?
ReplyDeleteOh, I sure hope so! If not, maybe I'll just be too forgetful by then to notice. haha :)
DeleteOurs are almost 31, 26, 23, and almost 22. Here's to both of us making it to and through their Thrilling Thirties. :)
Have a blessed day!
Your neighbors sound awful.
ReplyDeleteIt is very uncomfortable living beside them. Their kids are great: sweet, respectful, couldn't ask for nicer kids. But the grownups...OY!
DeleteHave a blessed night. :)